In Life and Fashion Limbo


For the past five weeks, I have basically been living out of a growing stack of suitcases and shopping bags.   I started out with items suitable for a weekend out of town and then, through a series of mishaps and adventures, never went home.  My husband was very nice about sending me a few additional items of clothing that I wanted and I managed to order a few things by mail (so many good sales!).   But here’s the big news:  I barely thought about how I was dressed or whether I had on make up or cute shoes.  I mostly wore active wear and sneakers and occasionally put on casual pants and sandals.

I know that you are curious about how I felt about all this.  First of all there were several mitigating circumstances that were preoccupying me:

  • The arrival of my first grandchild – a beautiful baby boy – at the moment it is more fun changing his diaper than putting together a new outfit.  And it makes no sense to change a diaper in good clothes, right?  And, of course, baby’s parents have received SO many baby clothes that I cannot even shop for new baby clothes yet!
  • A bad fall in my daughter’s bathtub (no bathmat!) that kept me sitting on a couch for two weeks while I recovered.
  • Pretty hot summer weather and the absence of the right clothes for this weather – frankly workout clothes have been the coolest way to dress. Plus I didn’t belong to a gym for this period of time and walking everywhere was my exercise outlet.
  • A lot of time spent packing up my daughter and son in law’s apartment for their move South – what would you wear for such a project?

Plus my re-retirement started in this five-week period and I was supporting my husband long distance as he packed all our worldly good for a 2500-mile move to the Southeast.

I have missed dressing up and even wearing heels.  After all, that is part of who I am and that will probably never change.  But I tried to give myself permission to cede personal control as I  moved around from someone else’s home to an Airbnb, and then hotels.  Emotionally and personally, I am not sure how I feel at the moment, but I’ll try to address that in one more non-outfit post later this week.  Then both my husband and my worldly goods will arrive and I’ll be in my own – albeit brand new – home again!


6 Comments on In Life and Fashion Limbo

  1. Michelle Braverman
    July 16, 2016 at 11:00 am (2 years ago)

    How can I not comment on your post? What a story! Someday (maybe) a long, long time from now you will laugh about it— there are all the elements of a sitcom, but certainly not now. You write with great good humor, though. That will surely see you through!

    The closest I can come to not caring what to wear happened when we had to quickly evacuate for a hurricane, the first I’d encountered in our new city. I was fairly paralyzed thinking what to throw in a suitcase, not knowing if anything I owned would survive. I was more concerned about saving family photos and the computer! I ended up with a couple of t-shirts, some comfortable pants and a sweatshirt and wore them for the next five days, camped out at a kind stranger’s house 100 miles from home. I had nary a thought about being fashionable and was just so grateful when we dodged the bullet and all was well back home.

    Keep your posts coming, fashionable or not. Congrats again to the birth of your (obviously well dressed) grandson. Oh, and I’m buying a rubber bathmat tout de suite.

    • Jeanne
      September 11, 2016 at 10:22 pm (2 years ago)

      Michelle – Thanks for your note. I’ll have to tell the tale sometime about when my house burned down in the 1991 Oakland Hills fire in CA. I was already a fashionista and EVERYTHING I owned was destroyed. Long story short, I didn’t have the luxury of thinking about fashion again until life was back to normal – my daughter’s life back to some semblance of normalcy and both of us with a place to live. All the best, Jeanne

  2. Lindi
    July 16, 2016 at 12:44 pm (2 years ago)

    Those are a lot of changes to absorb all at once! You’re wise to give yourself time and space. Best of luck, Jeanne, on this new journey! You are embarking on it in style, as usual!

    • Jeanne
      September 11, 2016 at 10:17 pm (2 years ago)

      Lindi – Thanks for your note. Jeanne

  3. Anna
    August 6, 2016 at 12:55 pm (2 years ago)

    Congratulations on your first grandchild! I am so happy for you. I came upon your blog after searching “fashion over 40”. I looked at many of the past days and years and really enjoyed seeing how your style grows and changes with the years. But your hair! It was nice before but it is so amazing now! You look wonderful. Looking forward to many more outfits!

    • Jeanne
      September 11, 2016 at 10:18 pm (2 years ago)

      Anna – Thank you for finding and enjoying my blog. Hopefully I’ll be providing a steady stream of posts very soon! Jeanne


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